Change

Change is inevitable in life and yet we often   resist
it.   Many of us want to change but simply don’t
know how to do it.  Change   can be   frightening so we resist, but fear of the
unknown can result in clinging to status   quo behaviours-no matter how bad they
are. 

 We may   read self help articles/ books/ watch u-tube
videos   and   even  
reach out for help but the   fundamental changes we would like to make   can still   elude
us.   We may be afraid of the loss and
uncertainty attached to change.  Sometimes the inconvenience of change is just
too inconvenient. Letting go and allowing change to enter our lives   depends 
 on some   inner  
belief in another possibility, another way.  

The Eastern Wisdom  traditions speak a lot about   the impermanence of   life  
and   the inevitability of change.    

In everyone’s life, major   events  
occur at some stage that brings big changes. This could be   the  
loss of   a loved one,   break up of a family or loss of a   Job. On a global level right now major
changes are occurring in many   people’s
lives   due to Climate Change and wars.

 During these   times 
 people are often   thrown
into a cycle of grief and loss. Understanding  
Kobler Ross’s   Grief Cycle, the
emotional cycle on being given bad   news
can help us to help others going through major change.

Embracing change can be a courageous act which you’ll find  the universe will respond  to. Wanting to change ourselves   is the beginning of a journey.

This change needs to be done gently and slowly if it is to
become permanent change. Take baby steps. 
Having   a realistic goal, set you
intention and allow the steps to arise naturally  from within, follow this inner voice don’t
just listen to the voice of ego and force 
yourself into change it won’t last. 
Everything has its own natural rhythm so allow time for change.  

Appreciate the path. The path should be as rewarding as the goal.   Small successes   are big. Each little success builds your reservoir of self-esteem.  Good Luck!

About Family Mediation

Family Mediation encourages separating couples to co-operate with each other in working out mutually acceptable arrangements on all or any of the following:
• Parenting the children
• Financial support
• Family home and property
• Other problems related to the separation

A professionally trained family mediator assists the couple to reach their own agreement. The role of the family mediator is to:
• See a couple together and help them settle their differences
• Create a climate in which neither party dominates but in which both parties participate fully in good faith
• Create and maintain an atmosphere of co-operation and responsibility
• Help couples deal with difficult emotional issues that can prevent them reaching agreement
• Help couples reach agreement that they believe to be fair, equitable and workable

Both parties must attend the mediation sessions. These sessions are confidential. The mediator does not take sides. Between two and six sessions are usually needed to reach a final resolution. Each session takes one hour.

Most Mediation’s end with a written document that sets out all the details of the party’s agreement. This document can then be taken to solicitors to be drawn into a legal Deed of Separation or Decree of Divorce. It may also be ruled by a court so that it becomes an enforceable court order.

When a couple with children has reached an agreement, the couple can invite their children to a session to discuss their new family arrangements.

Advantages of family mediation
There are many advantages to family mediation. These include:
• Family Mediation is a confidential process
• Each mediated agreement deals with the particular needs of the people involved
• A balanced agreement that is acceptable to both parties is reached
• Parents are helped to remain as partners in child rearing by developing parenting plans that are personal to each family.

Letting Go